Friday, May 8, 2015

Follow up to earlier post

A few months ago I posted: PSA: What I don't want to learn about on Facebook, a quick list of announcements that should not be told to immediate family and really close friends at the same time as announcing it to the greater world. So far 63 of you have read it, which makes it one of my most read stories on this blog.

Following my diagnosis, which still hurts me to think about or talk about much, I don't like to see Facebook posts about food. The expression "food porn" had evolved over the past few years. A little piece of me is torn apart when I see pictures of food I know I will probably never be able to enjoy again -- even if I can have a taste of it, I can't fully enjoy guilt-free as I could only a few months ago. I'm not going to ask people to stop posting pictures of food. I try to skim over them, or hide the images in a twisted way of letting FB what I *really* want to see. 

Why do I bring this up? Recently a few friends have recently posted how hurtful Mother's Day is now that they have lost their mother, or child, or have not been able to have children, or have had miscarriages, or any combination of the above, or any reason I can't imagine. I can see your pain in your posts and when we talk or email. I wish I could take it away.

I'm not going to apologize for having a mother and a daughter, hence reasons to celebrate Mother's Day. I can try to honor your wishes and hide you from my posts, but Facebook is funny -- it shows you what it thinks you want to see.  

I'm also not going to ask you to stop posting pictures or talking about food I'll never be able to eat, or talking about visiting places I'll never be able to afford to visit. If Mother's Day, or any day, is that hard, you have to stay away. If looking at food porn is too hard for me, I have to stay away. 

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